Moving Beyond Body Concerns


One of the biggest psychological challenges I faced in my first few years of dancing was body image.


I wasn’t nearly as svelte as I would have liked – actually I was a bit bigger than pleasantly plump. Being very aware of my pudge, I was extremely uncomfortable with another man’s hands anywhere on my body – let alone have our legs or hips touch. Since I was also reserved, other than hugs with friends or relatives, I probably hadn’t had physical contact with a man other than my husband in over 30 years.


And for some unfathomable reason, touching legs was a bigger deal that just hands on my back. I vividly remember the first time an instructor’s legs moved between mine – we were dancing American tango.   I am sure (although we’ve never talked about it) that he felt my involuntary flinch.   “Oh my”, I thought, “This is more intimate than I expected.” To his credit, we just kept dancing until I relaxed and became somewhat more comfortable.


The next big body hurdle – at least for me – is that I perspire – a lot.   I mean I perspire down my back to the point that my top gets soaked or I stop a lesson to wipe my forehead so the sweat doesn’t drip into my eyes.     Sweating profusely conflicts with my desire to be pristine – I don’t want anyone to touch my sticky back, etc.


So I’ve learned to:

  • buy tops that float and breathe
  • bring extra tops to lessons
  • tuck a tissue up a sleeve (or elsewhere)
  • realize many of us sweat, so our instructors are used to it


Finally, if you compete, there’s another concern – body odor.   For those of you who aren’t aware, if you are a female competitor, your dance partner/instructor may not want you to use antiperspirants during a competition – for fear of said products leaving a residue on his costume.     Really?


Fortunately, I’ve discovered some (almost) natural deodorants that don’t stain. So while I may sweat profusely, at least I won’t stink.



Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s